When I came across this photo of Malaysian Prime Minister Dato Seri Najib Tun Razak, his wife Datin Seri Rosmah Mansor and what looks like his son in the background performing their tawaf around the Kaabah in Masjidil Haram, I breathed a sigh of relief and prayer that there is still some hope for Najib to ‘tarbiyyah‘ his wife to cover her modesty as commanded by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala in Surah An Noor Chapter 24 Verse 31:
Unresolved issues can hinder our lives. We find out about the process of emotional detoxification.
Large amounts of stress, broken relationships, traumatic childhood incidents, suppressed anger and hurt — there are a variety of emotions and emotional experiences that can take a toll on us. While detoxification has mostly been restricted to diets, cleansing or removing of unhealthy emotional toxins can do wonders. These can be just as detrimental to a person’s health as unhealthy food substances. Most of us tend to carry a major amount of negativity within us, without even realising.
Clinical psychologist Seema Hingorrany explains. “All of us have emotional baggage/toxins in our body. But, there are certain people who keep this bottled up inside. Most commonly those who have past unresolved conflicts — someone who is a slow learner, anxious people, those suffering from insomnia or who have had a traumatic childhood experience come to us for emotional detoxification,” says Seema. The process is a long one of eight to 13 sessions and having a good therapeutic environment is important. Perhaps a mother constantly hits her child and then gets upset about it, later on she realises that it’s linked to her own traumatic childhood experience. “In order to help a patient heal, one needs to first find out what the baggages are, then help them deal with each emotion and negative memory. One also needs to work on the physiological level and at times meditation or breathing techniques are used as well as visual techniques where the patient is told to imagine a fantasy place where he/she is calm and composed. Another method used is asking the patient to write a letter to the person they are angry with and then once the emotions are released, they are made to burn it,” adds Seema.
Consulting psychiatrist Dr Shyam Lulla believes how we deal with a situation depends a lot on how we view it. One can take it to be distressing and become anxious and depressed or take it as a challenge. “Those who have had life changing events like the death of a spouse, divorce, personal injury, a job lay-off etc may be more susceptible to emotional toxins. In certain situations, the circumstances are not in your hand. It’s best to accept the facts and try and cope with them.” He suggests the use of relaxation techniques such as Jacobson’s relaxation training where a group of muscles are held tightly for a few seconds and then relaxed. Other options include yoga, massage therapy, music or even aromatherapy.
Every thought has a corresponding emotion and every emotion affects the body, states Dr Kanan Khatau Chikhal, Clinical Psychologist and Counsellor. “It is common knowledge that our breath pattern changes with every emotion. With the millions of thoughts we have, all the corresponding emotions are stored in our body. Often they remain unreleased and unhealed, eventually resulting in extreme physical illnesses like acidity, ulcers, blood pressure, migraines and heart problems. Each cell in our body has a memory of every experience we have ever had. Emotional detoxification is a process of healing and cleansing the mind and body.” Dr Kanan says that life gives many opportunities to detox. All you need to do is to use that situation (especially if painful) as a stepping stone. Reading books also help and create great awareness. “A skilled therapist can facilitate the journey and especially enable you to handle emotions. One only needs to be willing to release the negativity,” she explains.
Stages of emotional detox
Stage 1: Awareness You need to allow yourself to go through the process. Willingness is a key factor. Once that happens you realise that you have created a life of patterns of experiences that tend to repeat through different people through different situations. An awareness where you realise I am responsible for this! This can be a victimising guilt trip if you allow it or it can empower you as well. Since you are responsible you can change it.
Stage 2: Paradigm shift Since you are now aware of what went wrong, you realise that you are viewing the world through coloured glasses. Your own perceptions are blocking your experience. Now as ‘the shift’ happens you start to view the world from a neutral pair of glasses.
Stage 3: Love yourself Once this neutrality emerges a stage of love creeps in. A love for your self, for life, for the pain and the gain, the more the love penetrates, truthfulness emerges and then you remain true to your mind body and spirit.
Stage 4: Echo phenomenon There is a medical term called ‘homoeostasis’, which means the ability of a cell to maintain its internal state. If we extend our understanding it means that somewhere there is a tendency of the mind as well to maintain its original state. For that to happen life echoes back to you situations that you have dealt with only to test your new reality. This is the tricky and difficult stage.
Stage 5: Empowerment The feeling of enthusiasm and vigour. You realise now that your thoughts determine actions, your actions make your habits, your habits make your character and character creates your future.
Stage 6: Anasuya This Sanskrit term means the constant ability to see the good. It incorporates accepting each moment like it was meant to be and surrendering it to the universe.
Stage 7: Divine grace The more you see the good in all; including yourself, you zone into not just your own divinity but also see the divinity in others around you. You now continue to share your experience with others helping them grow as well.
Photo by Utusan.com
Rosmah Mansor “outburst” against internet users were quite unbecoming of a soon to be FIRST LADY. Rosmah is wife to controversial Deputy Prime Minister and Defense Minister Najib Tun Razak (embroiled currently in the Altantuya murder). As Najib gets closer to the post of the country’s premiership (oh, so near yet so far!), both husband and wife have started reacting to stories in the cyber world of their alleged involvement in the case.
In “Stories about me on Internet are not true“, Rosmah says:
“When I am patient and quiet, people resort to slander. I kept quiet previously thinking that people can decide for themselves but now even ridiculous stories are being believed.
“Fitnah (Slander) is not a small sin that can be easily forgiven especially when it involves trying to bring disrepute to others,” she said.
“Don’t believe those who use deceit to get positions. They are willing to fool the community to get what they want. May Allah forgive them and may they return to the right path.”
The only problem with this news report from the STAR is that it doesn’t tell us in what context did Rosmah say these things. That would be quite unfair to her. What kind of ‘certain allegations’ were she responding too that led her to such a conclusion?
It’s a sloppy job to carry Rosmah’s rantings without first publishing the news about her husband’s respond to Raja Petra Kamaruddin’s post on Altantuya. Her husband is mulling legal action against the later for involving him in a crime he denies being linked to.
Here, let me provide a note to the soon to be FIRST LADY:
Rosmah, high profile politicians face these kind of curses every day. One has to rise above it. Frankly, it comes with the job and the status.
It happens also when a society is starved of information, so people turn to the internet and hope to get some great news.
It happens when a country does not have free media or a credible one, so we look for information on the internet.
It happens when politicians are too high and mighty that it would be impossible to ask you directly about everything.
So, when you become FIRST LADY, will you see to it that we have a free media, hmm…Rosmah?
Or like former prime minister Mahathir Mohamad who recently hosts a blog at chedet, you could start blogging, too.
In this way, we get to ask you DIRECTLY about anything and everything under the sun.
31. Waqul lilmu/minati yaghdudna min absarihinna wayahfathna furoojahunna wala yubdeena zeenatahunna illa ma thahara minha walyadribna bikhumurihinna AAalajuyoobihinna wala yubdeena zeenatahunna illa libuAAoolatihinna aw aba-ihinna aw aba-i buAAoolatihinna aw abna-ihinna aw abna-i buAAoolatihinna aw ikhwanihinna aw banee ikhwanihinna aw banee akhawatihinna aw nisa-ihinna aw ma malakat aymanuhunna awi alttabiAAeena ghayri olee al-irbati mina alrrijali awi alttifli allatheena lam yathharoo AAala AAawrati alnnisa-i wala yadribna bi-arjulihinna liyuAAlama ma yukhfeena min zeenatihinna watooboo ila Allahi jameeAAan ayyuha almu/minoona laAAallakum tuflihoona31. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.
How come Rosmah Mansor doesn’t do the same when she is here in Malaysia or elsewhere around the whole wide world?
A question to Malaysia’s so called ‘First Lady’: Err..do you think that Allah Azza Wa Jalla can’t see you outside of Makkah al Mukarramah?
I’m serious.
There are a whole damn lot of people who claim to be Muslims, totally not bothered about the above shown commandments of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala when they are not within the precincts of the holy places of Islam.
This same blatant attitude of performing theatrics by donning the clothes and garbs of Al Islam is quite visible when one observes how some so called Muslims from here and especially the Arab countries do not bother to cover up when visiting our country here and Malaysian ‘Muslims’ travel abroad to the Non Muslim countries.
Maybe they think that Allah the All Knowing, All Seeing God of us all can’t see them when they are abroad or in ‘exclusive’ 5 star establishments or private luxurious palaces and mansions?
They can even outdo the Westerners as far as holding extravaganzas in partying all night long, etc.
I have received visuals and emails of some of the going ons in the so called VVIP do’s that made me just delete them as soon as I caught a glimpse of who it was that were in those pictures.
Surely Allah Azza Wa Jalla knows best as to all their misdeeds and as a Muslim blogger I just do not wish to highlight such slanderous behaviors of my fellow ummah yet this photo above tells me that yes!
Even our Raja Permaisuri Agong can cover her modesty in public, how come the rest of these ‘sanggul karan’ fashionistas can’t get themselves covered? Huh?
Are they much more classier than our Queen? Can’t they follow our Queen’s example?
Rosmah Mansor CAN cover her aurat there in Masjidil Haram and Najib Tun Razak being our 1Malaysia PM still has hope of becoming a true Muslim husband as per his rights and ought to take this cue to get his wife to toe the line as per covering her aurat as commanded by Allahu Ta’ala!
I for one wish to tell ‘Tok’ Najib that he has my wholehearted support in this case!
Chapter 24 Surah An Noor Verse 31!
Memorize it bro and keep explaining it to her!
I wish you all the best, my man!
Redeem yourself!
Go make us proud!
Tell her that Allah Sees her all the time, wherever she may be!
Insya Allah!
* I know for sure that the Islamophobes and ‘Mullah bashers’ will only be too happy to whack those of us who voice out for the so called Muslim leaders of Malaysia to walk the talk and prove it to us that they too can do it! Not just the likes of the ‘Infallible Ones’ out there. 
